So, I have been reading the book "A Single Voice" by Kristen M. Oaks. I was telling a single friend about how in the first chapter of the book. It was talking about feeling the pressure of being single from family and friends. Luckily, my family has been very good about accepting and loving me for who I am. There was a time when I felt the pressure of being single, but now that pressure is gone as I feel accepted for being me the way that I am.
Yet, with married friends, it is a different story. I have one married friend whom I love spending time with. We are close that she feels more like a sister, her husband feels like a brother-in-law, and their kids feel like my nieces and nephews :) Then, there are my married friends that when I am around them... I definitely feel the pressure of being single and uncomfortable spending a lot of time with them.
So, my 'single' friend and I were talking about why we can feel so comfortable around some married couples and not others. As we talked, I realized that some married couples only know how to talk about their spouse and their kids. Yet, the friendship that I have with my one 'married' friend is based on our own individual identity... we share similar interests and talk about these interests along with the things happening in our lives. Yes, we do talk about her family and my single life... yet, it isn't the focus of our conversations. Instead we focus on each other as an individual and the similarities that bring us together.
As I shared this insight with my 'single' friend, she reminded me that when I do get married to remember this and continue to treat my single friends as individuals... not as a single person.
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